Part 2!! It's been a long time coming. You have my apologies! In "Gray Areas: Part 2", I will break down each step of the process to getting yourself out of gray areas. In "Gray Areas: Part 1", we learned that gray areas were places of discomfort and confusion.
Step 1: Separating Yourself. In a process such a this one, you would need to go forth with a clear mind. Focusing on yourself is essential for this process to be successful. You have to begin to think about what's best for you and not what may be beneficial for everyone around you. I woke up this morning feeling very thankful for a dream that I had last night. In the dream, someone was telling me about a time that they were in a "gray area" and really their back was just against the wall. They were stuck between what they wanted and what everyone else wanted them to do. The little girl in my dream wasn't able to find peace until her mother told her that she had to begin to live for herself and not try to please everyone around her. It's amazing and funny at the same time that I had that dream last night, but He works like that! I will admit that I was not having the best night last night. Sometimes all that I'm doing catches up to me at once, and I tend not to be able to deal with those moments very well. So, it was very refreshing to wake up from that dream. So, with all that being said, sometimes you have to separate yourself from these gray areas or anyone associated with them in order to live for you and focus on you. If you have to go sit in the park or take a walk around the neighborhood, do whatever you feel is necessary in order for you to move forward with a clear mind. Get yourself together and make sure that you are at peace with the person that you are!
Step 2: Analyze the Situation. Analyze basically just means to break down. You don't have to pay a therapist for them to tell you that one of the first steps in solving a problem is getting to the root of the problem. I am one of those people that gets very quiet when something is bothering me or when I'm upset. So, I'll be walking around all upset and not saying what is wrong and the people around me will say, "Majah, we can't help you if you won't tell us what is wrong!" You can't fix something if you don't know what's wrong. Break down your situations. Figure out why you're in this situation and how it all began. Figure out exactly how you got the point that you're at now. Once you've gotten to the root of your issue, you can develop a plan.
Step 3: Alignment. In order to be successful at anything, all aspects of your life have to be aligned. Without alignment you will be in the midst of confusion and chaos. Most of the time we find ourselves in these "gray areas" because somewhere along the line we allowed something to get off track. The three main things that I make sure are ALWAYS aligned are my faith, priorities, and morals!! I make it a point to avoid anything that would allow any of those three things to be compromised. My faith must remain strong and uncompromised at all times. My priorities must always be in order and uncompromised. And my morals must always stand as they are without being compromised. Having these three aligned with one another makes life easier. Having all three aligned with Christ is what makes me successful. It is so easy for one thing to get off track and throw everything else off. Make it a point to always always ALWAYS align yourself, your faith, priorities, and morals with Christ! If we don't have Christ, we have nothing!
Final Step: Pray! Pray! Pray! Pray! Pray! Pray! Pray! Pray! Make it a point to remain prayerful throughout the entire process and your life! As that old church hymn says, "Take the Lord 'long with you everywhere you go!"