I know how you feel. I know that the feeling you have is one that you never want to experience again. You see them for all they can become and achieve. It is having or showing the capacity to become or develop into something in the future. It is potential. You see their potential.
I believe that we are all have a purpose for being here, and with purpose comes potential. Seeing someone for the potential that they have isn’t a crime. It is actually an amazing feeling when your potential can be seen. It becomes a problem only when we are blinded by potential. We get so caught up in the “what ifs” that we forget to see things for what they really are.
I too have been/am a victim of being blinded by potential. For so long I didn’t realize what was going on. And all of a sudden, I found myself at rock bottom. I didn’t even know how I got there, all I knew is that I was there and so hurt. For months I analyzed the situation. I completely broke it apart over and over again. It wasn’t until I opened my eyes and began to see things for what they really were that I was able to see how I ended up in my situation. It is as if I was seeing through a new light. I could no longer look at this the same way. I learned more in a month than I learned in years about my entire situation all because my eyes were opened to reality. I felt so dumb for never being able to see all that was going on. I beat myself up about for so long. I was so upset with myself for putting myself in this type of situation and for letting it go on for so long. Then, I realized I couldn’t really be mad at myself for something that I didn’t know. The bad part is that even now that I know everything, I still allow it to go on. Now is when I should really be upset with myself. Believe me, I am. I didn’t understand why I would put up with these things and then I realized how I got in this to begin with. All because I am blinded by potential. I too see them for all that they could be and achieve. I overlooked the bad just because I knew what they really had deep down. And the more I overlooked these things, the more I was hurting myself.
There comes a time that you have to open your eyes to the reality of things. I encourage you to do better than I have and not be blinded by potential. There is this post floating around the social media world that says something like you have to date a person’s reality because dating potential will have you stupid and confused. Although we may not be talking about dating, the same still applies. I want you to make better decisions than I have. Open your eyes to what you have been blinded from, take heed to your new learnings, and handle accordingly. Potential is a great but tricky thing. Be careful that seeing potential doesn’t turn into being blinded by it.